it’s my blog, i’ll write what i want/like

sorry, this is one of my long-winded ‘grumphy’ post. i just have to let things off my chest. (part of this was actually written several days ago… before my modem problem).

when i blog on irritating phrases, killuminati of sixth seal mentioned that to him the most irritating phrase is “it’s his/her blog, he/she can write whatever he likes.” well, i would rather change it to in the first person – “it’s”my blog, i’ll write whatever i want to”. this is for the individual blogger speaking about himself/herself, rather than another blogger or non blogger speaking for the individual blogger.

ok sorry, killu, i’m going to irritate you to repeat, it’s my blog, i’ll write whatever i like. whenever people tell me off that i shouldn’t write this or write that, i get very annoyed. sure i know of the implications or consequences of something i wrote e.g. negative remarks on the government, being anti-government or sometimes straying to being racial or anti religion and so on. yes i know people are only concern for me and therefore advised me not to write such, but hey i’m a big girl… a grown up matured adult, and one who had been around the net in newsgroup, discussion groups, forums for a long long time and i jolly well know what i’m getting into, so i’d rather people try not to ‘look out for me’ and give me a long lecture that i shouldn’t write this or that because what i wrote might get me into trouble. i’m being honest, open-minded, out-spoken with whatever i blog, so if i do feel strongly over a matter, i’ll say it out-right, though i know it may hurt/offend other people. better to speak out than remain a hypocrite, and yes i know how to use my own discretion to judge for myself what is deem appropriate to blog about (though ‘what is appropriate’ seems to be relative).

ok, so that was the ‘right armour’ off my chest. now the ‘left armour’.

yes… of course to any individual blogger, it’s your blog, up to you what you want to write. now, let’s say if you as a blogger write something negative of yourself or some dark secrets and so on, i’m sure you are doing it with the full knowledge that just about any ah chong, ahmad, asamy may read about it… and blurt it out to one and all. right? it’s a public blog, anyone can access it and anyone can make use of what you write to spread it to others.

let’s say, just as an example, i blog that i’m only 140cm tall, have a harelip and i stutter. then, you, after reading it, one day when you are at your own blog or someone’s else blog or at a forum or discussion group, you suddenly blurted out “lucia is a shorty harelip stutterer”. now, surely i feel bad (angry) about it but don’t you think you have the right to do it? yes, in principle and as a friend, i wish you would not do it but if you do it, i should not get offended and accuse you as rude and not seeking my permission to inform people that i’m a shorty harelip stutterer. why? because when i choose to blog on my private matter, i’m indirectly giving away the rights to anyone to use it, though i wish they wouldn’t.

are you following me so far? another example is let’s say i blog that i was once a drug addict and had been in the prison before. readers of my blog pick this up and mentioned it elsewhere… if i don’t like it, who do i have to blame but myself. once i blog on anything private, i’m giving away my privacy rights. i choose to blog about it in pubic, and they choose to announce it or gossip about it elsewhere…. surely they don’t need permission from me when they want to announce it elsewhere. by right, as a friend they should ask my permission, but if they didn’t, it’s not my right to accuse them as being rude, and that they should seek my permission first.

same thing goes for the other way round. i enjoy reading the blogs of other people. i enjoy reading what they have to say right from their heart and me making comments here and there on their blogs. once in a while, i might come across a blogger, say mr X, who made some negative remarks on himself e.g. “i have thinning hair and a bit bald in the centre… going to be botak soon!”. now in the course of me visiting blogs and forums, sometimes, unintentionally i will blurt out, “hey, do you know mr x’s hair is thinning and soon he will be botak”. should mr x get angry at me? he shouldn’t as this fact was stated by himself on a his own private blog… but his blog is open to anyone who surf the net, thus it becomes a public blog.

what i would like to bring up is that since i’m a ‘cakap banyak’ person and i’m an open minded person, more often than not i will blurt out some negative remaks a blogger made. i’m not being insensitive but merely utter it in good faith (or sometimes just as joke-joke) and i don’t mean any harm or malice or being hostile. so please my dear bloggers, if you find me doing so, don’t say i’m rude ok? and… YOU have to try not to be overly sensitive to get mad at a matter, of which you yourself revealed. and you should be an understanding person to understand that whatever private matters you blog about will NOT be private any more. i understand. that’s why i’m very careful when i blog on private matters. whatever i don’t want people to know, i do not blog about it. whatever i don’t want people to know but i feel like talking about it in my blog, i take the risk that my readers would blurt it out elsewhere… and if they do, i don’t blame them. and yes i know how to use my own discretion to judge for myself what is deem appropriate to blurt out (though ‘what is appropriate’ seems to be subjective).

*sigh* the blogging world is that complicated?

(i know this post of mine is going to make me unpopular but what the heck!)