s/he as interesting wo/man

since valentine day is tomorrow, i thought it would be a good time to talk about men and women relationship.

what do you think made a woman/man interesting? give your own personal (honest!) opinion and try not to shoot down other people’s opinion. ok before you start, i have to stress hard that i’m talking about women/men in general, not particularly malaysian women/men. get it?

i was inspired to blog on this after i read najah’s post on ‘desirability factor’. i suppose what is desirable in a woman/man makes her/him interesting too, right? if you read the comments on najah’s blog, you’ll realised i was quite pissed off by women complaining that malaysian men are not interesting. it was not only there but it seems at some other forums i went to, the malaysian women were also complaining that malaysian men are not interesting and spoke so highly of the ‘mat salleh’ men. to me, this is sort of typical of “what i have, i don’t like. what i don’t have, i crave for”. not that i’m speaking up for malaysian men but i do feel it is not fair to label malaysian men as not interesting.

i don’t like it when people say “malaysian men are not interesting”, “african men are flirtatious”, “italian men are romantic” and so on. i don’t believe in the nationality of a person affecting his characteristics. i believe more in the upbringing. the upbringing by his/her parents and the environment s/he is exposed to. of course i do know sometimes to a certain extend a person’s nationality (or religion) do reflect how s/he behave, but that is another issue to blog on. right now let’s just talk about what made a woman/man interesting. it is the individual, no matter where s/he is from we should concentrate on.

since i’m a woman, of course i will talk on interesting men.

to me, foremost of all, an interesting man must possess a very good sense of humour. a good sense of humour, not only being essential to stay alive and sane in this crazy world, is vital for a relationship to thrive.

secondly, a man would be say to be interesting if he is very well-read and knowledgeable. not necessarily intelligent, mind you. intelligence is different from being knowledgeable.

thirdly, the ability to compromise without one of the other tearing her/his head apart would be something desirable in a man.

finally (for now!), an interesting man is also one who knows how to make me adopt ntv7’s theme song “i feel good” each time he’s with me. yes this is quite important. a man must learn to make his female partner feel good when he’s around her like not intimidating her, allowing her to be herself, maybe ‘manja’ her a little bit (hehe) and not making himself feel more important then her.

ok, any men takers who want to get me into singing “i feeeel gooooddd”?? 🙂
(but no expensive flowers or chocs or dinner for me on v-day. that would made me feel baaaddd instead. bad. i’m bad. now i’m sounding like michael jackson).