white lies

so many talk on tsunami, so my money also pledged to tsunami fund oledi, and sue the mummy had stop talking too, so, nah! me today no want talk on tsunami.

as we are approaching the end of the year, many people would be busy making resolutions (btw i don’t have to make resolutions as my resolution is perpetually fulfilled) or spending time taking stock of what they had done or not done. for something different, i decided that for this end of the year instead of delving on “i should do this…” or “i should not do this…”, i decided to ponder on the many white lies i told. i’m sure you can relate to a few of them. bear in mind, these are based on my own personal viewpoint, so you might not agree with some.

first of all what is a white lie?
for sure, everyone of us has told a white lie before… er… i mean white lies (in all the 365 days, come on, don’t tell me you told only one white lie). according to an online dictionary, it define white lie as ‘an unimportant lie (especially told to be tactful or to be polite)’.

hmm… and my own brain dictionary would add ‘or told when scared of getting reprimanded’. ha. this definition sounds apt for kids actually, so i guess i’m like a kid in a grown up’s body. lol.

to me, white lies can be divided into two categories – the common ones and the serious ones. common ones are like e.g. when your wife asked “honey, how do you like my new harido?”. you dare not tell her it looks terrible on her so you say instead “it looks great, darling!”.

serious ones are like when one of your loved ones was involved in an accident and you dare not tell your sickly mother about it at once for fear she will go into shock. instead of saying “ma, mimi had an accident”, you say something like “ma, mimi will be staying at her friend’s today”. these kind of white lies are usually justifiable

now, of course i’m going to delve into the common (and sometimes funny) white lies. what are the white lies you tell the most? and why?

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ok, for me, these are some of the white lies that frequently tumble from my lips:

1. i didn’t get your call/message.
i say this often especially when i forgot to return call. didn’t want to let the person knows my memory cell is deteriorating lah (and thus telling of my age. haha!). another reason is simply that it was a call/message i was trying to avoid/ignore.

2. i forgot
this is more or less the same as no. 1. it’s not that i really forgot but i just can’t remember… er… what am i talking about… ain’t that the same thing… er… i mean it’s not that i really forgot but i was lazy to do it so i blame it on my poor memory.

3. i don’t know
again, more or less same as no. 2. when i feel lazy to do something, so i say “i don’t know” hoping to escape not doing it! i remember long long ago when i first started working, my fierce supervisor scolded me thus when she asked me to do something and i say i don’t know how: “don’t know, don’t know. it’s so easy to say don’t know. just say one word don’t know, and you don’t have to do it eh.” sometimes though this “i don’t know” is not a white lie at all but it is all the truth when i do really don’t know. what to do if people don’t believe me?

4. i am busy.
countless of times i had been saying this. wow… as if i’m a big ‘taukeh’ with 10 multi-national companies to take care of. heh. well, this is actually an excuse for a lazy me to avoid doing work/favours for others. or an excuse for a forgetful me when i forget to do something people ask me to do. hmm… not bad. works both way eh.

5. i have nothing to wear (when staring at a wardrobe that is going to burst any moment)
not sure if this is consider a white lie. maybe it is true that while staring at the many clothes in the wardrobe, i spy no clothes attractive enough (or suitable for the occasion) for me to wear, so naturally i lament i have nothing to wear! come to think of it, this is not a white lie at all since it is a common trait in women! haha.

6. it’s nice.
i remember my form 3 english teacher telling us that we used the word ‘nice’ too much. she said, each time we are asked how’s this, how’s that, what do you think, do you like it, etc, we’ll say “nice”. well i feel that “it’s nice” is a white lie we used often like when someone ask you “how do you like the design of my card?” i look at it and and can tell at once it is awful, but not to hurt her feeling, and to be on the safe side, i said, “it’s nice”, being careful not to say “wow! how lovely!” as that would be a much bigger white lie. “nice” is kind of like a non commital way of saying something is neither good or bad.

well, at the moment, only these 6 i can think of. can you relate to any? i suppose all of us one way or another are guilty of those.

btw, i came back from the memorial service at 11.50pm yesterday, too tired to blog. this blog on white lies i had already prepared it days ago. i will blog on the memorial service tomorrow.